I have started this blog for my niece, Marlee, who is in the hospital with (as of now) an unknown Neurological disorder/disease. She has been battling with this unknown “Monster” for the last month and has had 2 admissions so far. It is difficult and frustrating to sit back, wait, and watch what my brother-in-law’s family has to go through. I hope that through this blog and networking, Marlee’s story can get out, help offered, answers revealed, and at the very least, prayers said. My brother-in-law and sister-in-law have not been able to work for the last month because they have been caring for Marlee. Hospital bills, medical expenses, and other bills have been accumulating. I hope that this can provide some amazing support for them and ease their minds somewhat to help with the emotional and financial challenges that they will be facing in the months ahead. Here is Marlee’s story about the “Monster” inside her...
Marlee is 3 years old. She has 3 older sisters, Kayla (18 years old), Isabella (11 years old), and Jayden (6 years old). Prior to her inital hospitalization, Marlee was extremely active, very talkative, energetic, danced Tahitian, and was just like any other kid.
This was written by my sister-in-law (Marlee’s mother) about 2 weeks ago (and about 1 week after being discharged from her initial hospital admission):
"My daughter Marlee is 3 years old, 4 in June. We first noticed signs that something wasnt right about a month ago. Marlee started to limp on one side. It was like something was dislocated but she didnt complain about it. we noticed that she would fall out of nowhere. She would be walking and just fall. I told my husband that there was someting not right.
About a week later we noticed that she would repeat words in a sentence like she would get stuck. She would say "I want.. I want.. I want.." she would repeat it over and over again. Eventually she would get frustrated and give up or cry. She would have these "tantrums" crying and yelling for no reason. We also noticed that she wasnt sleeping well. She would have these leg movements at night that would keep her awake. We noticed that when we would talk to her she would zone out. After putting it all together we realized that something was wrong and this might all be related.
We had already scheduled an appointment for her leg to be checked out at Kaiser in the Minor Injury Clinic. We didnt want to wait a week for her doctor to see her. They did an Xray of her left leg. They didnt notice anything abnormal, and sent us on our way.
We were able to get an appointment the next week with her peditrician. We have never had Kaiser before so this was the first time seeing this pediarician. We explained to her Marlee's symptoms and she immediately sent us to the emergency room for a CT scan. She advised us if the CT scan came back normal that we would be admitted into the hospital for further testing, which we were. That night Marlee didnt sleep. She tossed and turned all night and had a tantrum that we couldnt control.
The following day, we were transferred to PICU at Santa Clara Kaiser. There they ordered an MRI and an LP. Marlee's tantrums seemed to grow more intense and lasted a lot longer. We were convinced that it was lack of sleep and she hadnt eaten at all. The night of the MRI I noticed Marlee was hallucinating. She would look up into the ceiling and laugh and point and say strange things like, "he looks like you mama, hims dead?" That was up until that point one of the scariest moments. I thought for sure she was possessed by the devil and was seeing dead people.
We had daily 10 minute visits from the doctors. They would ask how she did the previous night and take her vitals. It was frustrating to say the least. We were stuck in a room with our daughter who was slipping away, mentally and the doctors would only give us 10 minutes a day face time. The fourth day at in the PICU was the last day she communicated with us. We were talking about her favorite movie, Toy Story. We could tell that she was losing the ability to talk, so we were trying to encourage her at any chance we could. We asked her, Who's this? She responded the first two times "Buzz" and "Jessie" when we asked her who Woody was she had a total melt down. She began pointing at Woody over and over again and started to cry. The pointing turning into hitting the page and she lost it.
The nurses came in and said that its completely normal for her to act this way. The next day we were moved out of PICU and into pediatrics. The doctors advised us that all the tests they have done on Marlee were coming back normal, but just to be safe they wanted to give her a dose of IVIG. They sent away for the NMDA test and wouldnt have the results back for at least two weeks, but if she does have it the IVIG would help.... they hope! WHAT?? Marlee's tantrums began to get worse. The doctors started giving her Clonazepam. After two days they switched her to Versed to calm her from her tantrums. After another two days of Versed "as needed" the doctors decided to put her on Risperidone every 12 hours and Clonazepam in lieu of the Versed. Marlee's tantrums seemed to calm a little. She wasnt as violent, but she still had at least two episodes a day.
We encouraged Marlee to play as much as possible. She would just stare at us with empty eyes. It was like she was there but not there.... We took her to the playroom on the floor and she would play and walk around. The doctors took this as a sign as she is better. After only two weeks in the hospital she was released with her perscriptions of Risperidone and Clonazepam and a referral to see OT/ST/PT and a follow up with a Neurologist in a month.
Tomorrow will be a week she has been out of the hospital and she doesnt seem to have gotten any better. She cries the WHOLE time she is awake. We havent gotten her to talk at all. She is still having tantrums. We had a follow up with her pediatrician and asked if the results have come back... NOTHING. No answers no suggestions, she just advises us to wait.......”
Frustrated with the lack of answers and the amount of time that went by with still no results from original tests, Christina and Bernard took her to Lucille Packard Children’s Hospital, despite their Kaiser insurance.
After being there for just a day and meeting many doctors and healthcare members on the team that would care for Marlee, a glimpse of hope came about that maybe, just maybe, they would finally get some answers. A repeat lumbar puncture was done since Kaiser still did not have any results ready or back from their LP.
However, being that they had Kaiser insurance, they were classified as a “high risk” patient (private pay). The second day after admission, many people came to talk to them about transferring back to a Kaiser facility. Christina and Bernard were happy and hopeful with the care they were receiving. But when asked for a 60% deposit for their hospital stay several times, they felt like they were being pushed to go back to Kaiser. They were also told that the IVIG treatment they wanted to restart on Marlee would cost them $20,000 for ONE treatment. They estimated that they could be there for 2 weeks with over $200,000 in medical expenses at their hospital. And, in their 2 day stay, already accrued over $50,000 plus doctor fees. Oh, and if they could pay the 60% deposit as soon as possible.... So, reluctantly and sadly, Marlee was arranged to transfer to Kaiser Oakland on Saturday, March 23, 2013.
Now to make the long story “short”. Marlee has been living with this unknown “Monster” inside of her for nearly over a month. The doctors are still baffled and awaiting results. So far, at Kaiser Oakland, Marlee has started IVIG therapy, had another CT scan, and started a new treatment of Rituximab. As of now, there are 3 possible diagnoses of what they are thinking Marlee may have: Anti-NMDA Receptor Encephalitis, Neuroblastoma, or Opsoclonus Myoclonus.
- Anti-NMDA Receptor Encephalitis:
- Neuroblastoma:
- Opsoclonus Myoclonus:
We are still playing the waiting game. Awaiting results from labs and scans. Meanwhile, the doctors seem to be attempting to use treatments that are used for many of the possible diagnosis. Marlee is being fed through a feeding tube in her nose, is non-verbal, does not swallow, stand, or walk.
As family and friends, we watch helplessly as Marlee seems to have little to no improvement and battles this unknown “Monster“ inside of her. But we pray that are prayers will be soon answered and we’ll have the crazy, energetic, playful, talkative, dancing Marlee back very soon.
Thank you for taking the time to read my niece’s story. We are grateful for prayers and well wishes.
For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Jeremiah 29:11
Jeremiah 29:11
I am so heartbroken reading this story of the little Marlee that I remember at the softball fields. I will be continuously praying for her. Children and hospitalizations, not knowing what's going on, what's going to happen, why, all of it is all too familiar for me. Yet, I know that the Lord will take care of it all. I am praying, praying, praying. Please let me know if there is anything that can be done to help. Meal Trains, financially, anything! I know how this hurts and I want to help any way I can. Erica, parent from Lady Yankees 2012
ReplyDeleteI too was in tears after reading this. I'm so sorry for you folks and I will send my prayers your way. I am a friend of Angie's. I understand the struggle with Kaiser as well and I have been in the Oakland children's hospital when they sent my daughter there for a second surgery that she never needed. It almost sounds like she has some kind of parasite in her. Have they looked into that at all? I wish you guys the best! stay positive and have faith!
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DeleteThis may help, if you have minds as open as your hearts: http://www.energyconnectiontherapies.com/articles/crystal.children.info.pdf
ReplyDeleteKeep fighting that monster, Marlee!!!
ReplyDeleteAll my prayers to Marlee and family, keep fighting sweet girl!!
ReplyDeleteJaime (Jake's mom)
My family and I send prayers, comfort and love during this trying time. As a parent I can fully understand how you feel and I truly hope either the cause of everything wrong her is found and can be corrected or it just goes away. Truly heartbroken. :(
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Christina and Bernard my heart is so hurt for the pain you are feeling...i know how helpless you must feel watching ur baby girl go through all this...we r praying for u all for a full recovery for msrlee and for strength for u and Bernard and the sibling's ur such a loving family i believe u will get through this...love u guys
ReplyDeletePraying for Marlee and the entire Tubera family. Marlee's story touched my heart...I know it is never easy to have your child lay in the hospital bed, while you await answers. Continue to stay strong and lean on the Lord's strength. We don't always know why we have to go through tough situations; but I do know that He will never give you something He knew you couldn't handle.
ReplyDeleteI'm not sure if Marlee has been referred already...but when my girl's were in Kaiser Santa Clara they referred us to California Children's Services (CCS). They help with medical costs for children of all ages, depending on the service needed. They covered the cost of my daughter's blood transfusion. Hope it helps.
Alofas, The Fa'i Family
My heart aches for your family! I am praying for your strength to get through these tough days and for some answers for sweet Marlee. In regards to the above comment, my son suffered a severe brain injury at birth and we saw multiple specialists on a weekly basis. CCS helped us TONS with the costs of hospital stays, doctors visits, medication, etc.. They also covered some of his stays at LPCH. I urge you to apply for it. Also, the clinic across from Valley Medical Center has a great pediatric team of specialists. Whichever route this journey takes you, I'm praying for only good things. "If God brought you to it, He'll bring you through it."
ReplyDeleteDear God, Oh Heavenly Lord, Please help Heal Our BEAUTIFUL ANGEL MARLEE & Give her the Strenghth and Endurance to Overcome all Ailments and let her FIGHT this Monster. Please Restore her to Optimal Health. & Keep her Family STRONG-May all His Blessings Fall upon this Precious Angel and her Family.
ReplyDelete...In Jesus's name AMEN
Christina,Bernard & her Loving Sisters...Sendin our LOVE, BIG HUGZ & LOTSA PRAYERS to U & your AMAZING FAMILY, MUCH LOVE ALWAYS ~ the Lanchinebre's
Hi my name is Wendy and Jewel is my best friend, i just read about your daughter and my heart goes out to you, one of my youngest daughters had medical situation that was as serious as yours and now she is ten years old. Please give me a call i might be able to give you some advice and hopefully some resources to help you. My number is 510 927 0550 and you can call me whenever you have time.
ReplyDeleteNever give up you will make it in the end Marleen
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